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世间有八苦，最苦求不得
作者:行沙
世间有八苦：生、老、病、死、离别、怨憎、所欲不得及无阴盛苦！
然，最容易也最让人难以解脱的莫过于“求不得苦”。
越是想得到的东西，往往越是得不到，古往今来，多少风流人物痴缠于此，唏嘘不已！
记得佛家有一则故事，佛陀阿难出家前，在道上见一美貌少女，从此爱慕难舍。

阿难对佛祖说：我喜欢上了一女子！佛祖问阿难：你有多喜欢这女子?
阿难说：我愿化身石桥，受那五百年风吹，五百年日晒，五百年雨淋，只求她从桥上经过。
是啊！世间多少人一生中没有遇见过让其怦然心动的美丽人儿，结果却是有缘无分，擦肩而过！
即使，千方百计，费尽心思，有些东西也是求也求不来的，千帆过后，终究是最后的过客。
然，有些人在错过今生之后，往往期许来世。期许来世能够再次相遇，执手来生。
然，来世的事，又有多少人能够知晓！
也许，有缘真的能够相遇。
也许，一辈子都不曾遇见。

“但曾相见便相知，相见何如不见时，安得与君相决绝，免教生死作相思。”
有时候，相遇不如不曾遇见，向来缘浅，奈何情深。有缘遇见，无缘在一起也是一种煎熬。
不是不在乎天长地久，而是不曾拥有！没有拥有过何谈天长，何谈地久！
然，世间最痛苦的事莫过于有些人和事，无关与你。
因为，那不是属于你的，你无权，也没有资格。
不由喟然长叹：世间最苦求不得！

世间最苦的事莫过情苦. 问世间情是何物，直教生死相许。

君生我未生，我生君已老。
君恨我生迟，我恨君生早。
君生我未生，我生君已老。
恨不生同时，日日与君好。
我生君未生，君生我已老。
我离君天涯，君隔我海角。
我生君未生，君生我已老。
化蝶去寻花，夜夜栖芳草。

I was not born when you were born,
You were old when I was born.
You regret that I was late born,
I regret that you were early born.

I was not born when you were born,
You were old when I was born.
I wished to have been born together,
We could enjoy our time together.

You were not born when I was born,
I was old when you were born.
I was so far away from you,
You were so distant from me.

You were not born when I was born,
I was old when you were born.
I’d become a flower-seeking butterfly,
And sleep on the fragrant grass every night.

We longed for whatever we miss or don’t have and forget about what we have. We are trapped.

We are trapped in our past: Anger, arrogant, guilt, regret, resentment, grievance, sadness, bitterness, pain, hate and all forms of non-forgiveness.

We are trapped in our future: Hope, expectation, unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry and all forms of fear.

Nothing ever happened in the past and nothing will ever happen in the future, it all happens in the Now. What you think of as the past is a memory trace, store in the mind, of a former now. When you remember the past, you reactivate a memory trace and you do so now. The future is an imagined now, a projection of the mind. When the future come it come as the Now. When you think of the future you do it now.

So set yourself free from the baggage of the past and the expectation of the future. Live in the present. “THE NOW”

Accept what you are now with no judgment. Acceptance does not mean give in or give up, it simply mean be aware and conscience of what you are NOW and take control of it. Act now.

If you are walking in the park, feel the breeze, see the radiant color of plant and flower around you, hear the voice of mother earth.

If you are nursing your baby feel the warmness, the heartbeat, the closeness, the bond and love that engage you both.

If you are reading a book feel it as if you are the author or the character in it.

If you are working feel your work as work of art and labor of love, feel your energy radiant from your body, the lightness of your body and clarity of your mind and if you met a deadlock take a break and engage with other activities, talk to your colleagues, family or play with your children, walk in a park and when you returned to your work the deadlock would seem not so complicated as you first encounter it.

If you find yourself quarrelsome, angry and frustrated it is your unconscious ego past and worrisome future that control you, be conscious now and relinquished your identification and freed yourself from your mind, when identification and ego melt away true communication begins.

If you find your life situation unsatisfactory, unpleasant or even undesirable, surrender to the “NOW” thus free yourself from the negative emotion of the unconscious past (Anger, arrogant, guilt, regret, resentment, self pity, sadness, bitterness, pain, hate and all forms of non-forgiveness) and feel the positive energy flowing through your body (Courage, passion, compassion, determination, strength, joy, calmness and peace of mind) aware and conscious of what you are now, take appropriate action to change the situation. Plan and focus on what you can do now, a step at a time, a word at a time. Make sure you don’t start to run “mental movies” project yourself into the future and so lose the now. Any action you take now may not bear fruit immediately but if you focus on each step you take now the future will take care of itself.

Hope everyone learns something, no point to visit past animosity and trapped yourself in the past.

Thank you