Koon Yew Yin's Blog

How to live a life without regrets? - Koon Yew Yin

Koon Yew Yin
Publish date: Mon, 13 Nov 2023, 10:49 AM
Koon Yew Yin
0 1,446
An official blog in i3investor to publish sharing by Mr. Koon Yew Yin.

All materials published here are prepared by Mr. Koon Yew Yin

About 20 years ago when I was a director of the Ipoh Community Hospital which is a charity hospital, I invited an Australian palliative care expert to give a talk to all our hospital staff and invited guess. After a long lecture, I asked “what do the dying persons usually say before they die?” They have 3 regrets.

  1. They should have live a life to please themselves instead of pleasing others.
  2. They should have the courage to express their opinion instead of keeping quiet.
  3. They should have spent their money more lavishly on themselves instead of saving for their children

In my opinion, the two worst words we can say to ourselves are "what if?" I have spent countless hours thinking about what could I have done differently in my life and truth be told, it didn’t make them any better. While it is hard not to think about your past, you can't let it control and consume you. Learning what are our biggest sources of regrets are, and how we can avoid and overcome them, is a key component in a happy and satisfied life. After going over this insightful information I've realized a lot of things that have changed my life for the better.

Living a life without regrets is a common aspiration for many people. However, it is not always easy to achieve, as we may face challenges, setbacks, and mistakes along the way. Fortunately, there are some tips and strategies that can help us live more authentically, peacefully, and joyfully, regardless of our circumstances. Here are some of them, based on the web search results I found:

Be realistic about the 'damage.' 

Sometimes, we may exaggerate the negative consequences of our actions or inactions, and feel guilty or ashamed for things that are not as bad as we think. Instead of dwelling on the past, we can try to assess the situation objectively, and see if there is anything we can do to make amends, apologize, or improve. If not, we can accept that we are human and imperfect, and forgive ourselves and others.

Be true to yourself. 

One of the most common regrets of the dying is not living a life that reflects their true values, passions, and dreams. To avoid this, we can try to identify what matters most to us, and pursue it with courage and determination. We can also avoid comparing ourselves to others, or letting others dictate our choices. We can listen to our intuition, and follow our own path.

Express your emotions. 

Another common regret is not expressing our feelings, especially to the people we love. To prevent this, we can try to be more open and honest about our emotions, and communicate them in respectful and constructive ways. We can also express our gratitude, appreciation, and affection to the people who enrich our lives, and let them know how much they mean to us.

Focus on what you can control. 

Sometimes, we may regret things that are beyond our power, such as the actions of others, the outcomes of events, or the changes in the world. This can make us feel helpless and frustrated, and waste our energy on things we cannot change. Instead of doing this, we can try to focus on what we can control, such as our attitude, our behavior, and our response. We can also look for opportunities to learn, grow, and adapt, and make the best of every situation.

Try new activities. 

One way to live a life without regrets is to explore new possibilities, and challenge ourselves to step out of our comfort zone. We can try new hobbies, learn new skills, travel to new places, meet new people, and discover new aspects of ourselves. We can also embrace change, and welcome new experiences with curiosity and enthusiasm.

More articles on Koon Yew Yin's Blog
Who will win the Presidential Election? - Koon Yew Yin

Created by Koon Yew Yin | Oct 30, 2024

Latest poll on 30th Oct 2024

Who will win the Presidential Election? - Koon Yew Yin

Created by Koon Yew Yin | Oct 30, 2024

Latest poll on 30th Oct 2024

Wasco expects better profits in coming quarters with robust order book - Koon Yew Yin

Created by Koon Yew Yin | Oct 25, 2024

The group is expected to deliver better profits and revenue from its pipe coating, engineering, and bioenergy segments.

Malaysian Communist Party - Koon Yew Yin

Created by Koon Yew Yin | Oct 14, 2024

Today I read the article by Murray Hunter titled “A Visit to the Malaysian Communist Party tunnels in Betong, Thailand”, which is an important part of Malaysia’s history.

Property Developers comparison - Koon Yew Yin

Created by Koon Yew Yin | Oct 04, 2024

KSL is still the cheapest based on a 4.4 PE ratio, which means its share price should continue to go up. Unfortunately, there are a few small investors who always queue to sell at cheaper prices...

Property Developers comparison - Koon Yew Yin

Created by Koon Yew Yin | Oct 04, 2024

KSL is still the cheapest based on a 4.4 PE ratio, which means its share price should continue to go up. Unfortunately, there are a few small investors who always queue to sell at cheaper prices...

Water pollution in the UK: the causes and effects - Koon Yew Yin

Created by Koon Yew Yin | Sep 06, 2024

Water pollution is a huge challenge for freshwater in the UK, impacting our rivers, streams, and lakes and the wildlife that call them home.

Johor Property Boom - Koon Yew Yin

Created by Koon Yew Yin | Sep 03, 2024

State housing and local government committee chairman Datuk Mohd Jafni Md Shukor said demand for properties in Johor has gone up since last year’s announcement about the SEZ.

KSL’s Profit Record - Koon Yew Yin

Created by Koon Yew Yin | Aug 30, 2024

KSL announced its total 4 quarter EPS of 42.3 sen and its net tangible asset (NTA) backing of RM3.86. It is selling for less than 50% of its net tangible asset (NTA). KSL is undervalued. Its share...

How Malaysia can become a Developed Nation? - Koon Yew Yin

Created by Koon Yew Yin | Aug 26, 2024

In 2012, I wrote my first book “Malaysia: Road Map For Achieving Vision 2020” which was launched by former Financial Minister Tengku Razaleigh.

Discussions
1 person likes this. Showing 13 of 13 comments

Integrity. Intelligent. Industrious. 3iii (iiinvestsmart)$€£¥

Very useful and valuable life lessons. Nice of KYY sharing these. Thanks.

2023-11-13 12:07

MagicalBobby

Post removed.Why?

2023-11-13 12:58

OnTime

世间很苦,还好可以念佛往生

2023-11-13 13:24

Sslee

If you ask me, do I have regret? I will say if given a chance to start all over, I would like to be a better son, a better brother, a better student, a better engineer, a better subordinate, a better husband, a better father, a better superior and be a better person.

But it did not matter any more as I see my children are that better person that I was not.

2023-11-13 13:34

StartOfTheBull

How to live a life without regrets is only a subject for the rich.
xxxxxxxxxxxx
Initial chaos as thousands throng Miri temple for free 10kg rice; some waited since 4am
https://www.malaymail.com/news/malaysia/2023/11/11/initial-chaos-as-thousands-throng-miri-temple-for-free-10kg-rice-some-waited-since-4am/101533

2023-11-13 13:35

EngineeringProfit

Simple. Adopt the right set of mentality i.e. focus more on executing resolutions than feeling remorseful. Spend more time on talking about solution than thinking about problem. Do an NLP on the brain - happiness is more about developing a pleasing personality and cultivating the discipline to enjoy the simplest meal and the most basic lodging, rather than over-indulgence in pleasurable activities.

2023-11-13 15:42

ahbah

1. Never lose money. n 2. never forget rule no. 1.
If we lead our life by following the above 2 rules, we will have no regret in life.
We can please our self as much as we want and also we can spend as lavishly as we like.

2023-11-13 18:11

xiaoeh

Find yourself, be yourself

2023-11-13 18:38

icecool

just "live life to the fullest" simple, clear and direct.

2023-11-13 20:20

Sslee

Define fullest.
I need to work part time during LCE, MCE and HSC examination break.

I need to work hard for 12 years just to purchase my first house that cost RM 125,000

And now at my age money is/are just figure/figures in my Bank and hlebroking share and cash account.

2023-11-13 20:40

Mikecyc

Post removed.Why?

2023-11-14 14:28

Mikecyc

Post removed.Why?

2023-11-15 07:28

CharlesT

Shouldnt come to I3 10 years ago....ended up from Superinvestor to ..........

2023-11-15 08:08

Post a Comment