Dear all,

I was amused and bemused by the commentators never ending verbal fight in JAKS forum as each was reacting to each other comments fast and furious instead of responding to each other comments.

There is a huge difference between reacting and responding. A reaction is typically quick, without much thought, tense and aggressive. A response is thought out, calm and non-threatening. A reaction typically provokes more reactions – perpetuating a long line of hatefulness with nothing accomplished. So please allow me to relate the below story.

"The cockroach management theory for self development"

At a restaurant, a cockroach suddenly flew from somewhere and sat on a lady. She started screaming out of fear.

With a panic stricken face and trembling voice, she started jumping, with both hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach. 

Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group also got panicky.

The lady finally managed to push the cockroach away, but it landed on another lady in the group.

Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama.

The waiter rushed forward to their rescue.

In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter.

The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behavior of the cockroach on his shirt.

When he was confident enough, he grabbed it with his fingers and threw it out of the restaurant.

Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts, and started wondering; was the cockroach responsible for their histrionic behavior?

If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed?

He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos.

*_It is not the cockroach, but the inability of those people to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach, that disturbed the ladies._

*More than the problem, it's our reaction to the problem that creates chaos in our life.*

Lessons learnt from the story:

*We should not react in life.*

*We should always respond*

The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded.

Reactions are always instinctive, whereas responses are always well thought of.

A beautiful way to understand LIFE:

A Person who is HAPPY is happy not because 

Everything is RIGHT in his Life...

He is HAPPY because his Attitude towards Everything in his Life is Right!

*RESPOND TO ISSUES DON'T REACT and keep winning and be happy....*

Wishing all a Holly Jolly Christmas and Happy New Year.

Thank you

P/S: If you want to be a super trader like Mr. Tan Boon Seng in SEACARA then you must have at least the reflex of a black panther in order to catch a dead cat bounce of a declining stock otherwise you will end up holding a dead cat body for some time.